Updated: May 26, 2019
I feel the need to write something about failure right off the bat, because there's a chance that this podcast could be just that- a huge failure.
Many of us, myself included, are no strangers to failure. When I was fifteen, my dream was to be the next Taylor Swift. I wanted to be on stage singing for a living and have the whole world listening to Tori Ray on their iPhones or in their cars. I even wrote a song about how one day I would be up on stage and on a billboard and living in California making it big time.
Well, seeing as you haven't heard my music on the radio, probably haven't heard of me before now at all, or that there have only been about 2500 downloads of my songs in the past 10 years, you can see how well that went.
My music career is what the world would deem a "failure." Boo hoo hoo.
And that's only one example. Instead of standing up to the pressures of high school and to bullies, I developed a binge-eating disorder. When I set off to graduate college, I only made it through a few years. By time I was twenty-one I was addicted to some of the hardest substances on the planet and wanted to kill myself. I've had relationships end, my heart broken, and dreams shattered.
The world would label me a "failure." But the world would be wrong.
Whenever we set out to do something great, we will fail. Please read that again. It's not that we might fail or are risking failure, we absolutely will fall flat on our faces at some point. I'm pretty sure my face still has bits and pieces of concrete stuck to it after my morning greeting with the hard ground to be get up and work out and here I am still in my pajamas. To truly live means that you will fail. To recover means that you keep getting back up.
If you've ever seen the movie A Cinderella Story, then you will have heard this quote from Babe Ruth before,
"Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game."
And believe it or not, Babe Ruth is an authority on the subject of failure. Most know him for his great batting average (or the candy bar, let's be honest). But, while in 1923 he set the record for most home runs in a single season, he also set another record. The most strikeouts in a single season.
Babe Ruth had a total of 714 career home runs, but 1,330 career strikeouts (thank you Google). That's nearly twice as many guys! Why? Because he swung for the fences every time. Sometimes that went well, and sometimes it didn't. But he swung anyway.
I swing too.
(I realize I need to clarify this statement quickly so you don't get the wrong idea.)
Despite the multiple "failures" that I have had in my life, I don't let that keep me from getting up and trying again. Sometimes getting up takes a full day of Netflix binging, or an afternoon of self-pity, or a week of disorganized chaos at work, but it happens. I do Recover.
And the cool thing about Recovery, is that we get to see these so called "failures" turn into our biggest gifts! The things that I have overcome have given me the platform to help thousands of kids and parents. It's softened my heart for others so that I can love and serve them better. It's fueled my passion for supporting others. And this time, I hit a home run.
If you look back over your life, I'm sure you can find examples of this as well. Sometimes they're hidden, so you have to look closely. If you can't find one then perhaps you're still lying on the ground and you just need to take the hand reaching out to you and get back up.
It's not easy. Failure is hard. And you will strikeout. But you'll also hit that home run if you keep swinging. You're a Recover girl! We swing for the fences. We strikeout. But we RECOVER.